Service Notes
Service title: Family
Subtitle: The Husband
***Kindly note that all scriptures are in the King James Version (KJV) except otherwise stated***
Pastor Earnest Teaching:
(we are looking at the Family but today our focus is on the Husband)
The joy of heaven is for us to live the life that God has prepared for us
When we align ourselves according to God’s word, every other thing aligns itself
This year we are going to pray but you are not going to pray for your needs
Every need that you have knows that it has every need to be fulfilled by God
Psalm 127:5
It is said that Solomon is one king that never fought a battle
In peace he subdued all nations that surrounded Israel
Proverbs 3:5-6
God loves so much so that He wants you to know that He wants you to direct you in every area pf your life
Some people fail in life that; just one error could make their whole life fail
God says no matter how intelligent you are, there is a level higher than your intelligence
In the nuclear family there are 5 major groups that you will find:
- The husband
- The wife
- The father
- The mother
- The children/child
Because you can be a wife and not be a mother
You can be a husband and not be a father
God is very much interested in family
The husband is the male and the wife is the female: know that, accept it and live by it
Each unit has a role and a responsibility that will help your role
As a father you have responsibilities, as a husband there are responsibilities
As a wife there are responsibilities and as a mother there are responsibilities
We must allow God to build our families
The greatest lessons we can have in life is information form the word of God
He expects us to see, live, and hear by the word
You are selective of what you read and the information you imbibe from what you read
Each member has a set of responsibilities which when they carry out will help the rest of the family to enjoy the family
For the man:
1. He is goal oriented
Every man just like God always looks at the end from the beginning
2. He is analytical; he wants to work with facts, he is very scientific in his reasoning
3. He is physically structured to be stronger than the woman
Jesus said when you pray, pray that His Will will be done on earth as it is in heaven
4. Naturally, man is not a very good talker, thus, he doesn’t talk too much
He is prone to seeing big things
The woman:
- Is process oriented
- She is intuitive
When God brings a man and a woman together, each one is supposed to be a check on the other; thus a helper
3. She is physically weaker
4. She talks a lot
Never tell your wife, ‘you talk too much’
Understand that they love to talk, just pretend you are listening, it brings up the joy of communication
The wife is likened to the church and the husband is likened to Christ Himself
As a church we talk (pray) a lot; but its an interesting and beautiful union
There are some people who see themselves as introverts and extroverts.
Romans 8:14
It is a fact but not a truth
This is because this is how your were biologically born
When you get born again, you are not supposed to be led and ruled by your biological makeup
Galatians 4:6
I have the Spirit of Jesus
And because I have His Spirit, He leads me in the way that I should go
I am always on the right part
Galatians 5:22-25
Once you get born again the Holy Spirit brings you into a oneness with God the Father
Now everything bout your life becomes the outworking of the Holy Ghost
Everything that God would have done physically, He now does through you
Because the Holy Spirit is
- A Comforter, you are a comforter
- A Helper you are a helper
- A strengthener you are a strengthener
Whether as a child, mother or father learn to fulfil your responsibilities
Sometimes Christian families fail because in the other units of the family or part doesn’t accept this fact
They are looking at other peoples families and lives
So they want to live their lives according to one celebrity
When you are born again, there are fruits that you are supposed to bear
Love is not one-side
Love is not looking for recognition
Love just loves
See the end from the beginning
Things might be a little bit rough today but understand that there is a bright future
Help your wife understand that it won’t be long
Learn to love
Love is not something you pray for, there are things that God has put in the inside of us
Where is joy?
From the inside of you
So even if it looks as though the mature things are not there, it should not stop your joy
Let your heart flow out with joy
A man will always want to come to a house that is joy-full
Although his heart is already bubbling with joy, when he comes home and there is no one to receive that joy, he may darken out
Do you know what peace is?
Never you say there is no peace in this house
Where do you expect it to come from
If it is not there then it means you are the one who is not bearing those fruits, don’t blame it on anyone else
Sometimes there is a waiting period
Learn to wait
One beautiful thing is that your later days are brighter than your former
Learn to trust
Trust is not earned, it is a gift
Don’t wait for your spouse to earn your trust, give it as a gift
Can you imagine God trusting the church with everything that He owns?
He understands that sometimes we ‘blow up’
But He corrects us, forgives us
How many of you have ever carried a new-born baby?
The way you cary the baby is not how you hold a block; you hold it carefully
Don’t take things seriously
Have a gentle heart
Sometimes you might have good facts, good information to make your judgement palatable
Don’t base your judgement on those things base it on the word of God
If God says forgive, forgive at all times
Train yourself first of all; that’s what gentleness is about
Train yourself so that no matter what your wife says no part of your body will move impulsively
If you discover any part of your body often moves impulsively, talk to that part of it
Don’t wait for Pastor to address the situation, become your own Pastor; talk to it
Ephesians 5:23
The husband is the head of the wife
He is the Saviour of the body
He is the protector
He is the one that defends the woman/wife
As Christ is to the church so is the husband to the wife
The wives are to be subject to their husbands
Husbands, love your wives just as Christ also loved the Church and gave Himself
That’s is why God loved David, he was willing to lay down his life for the sheep
As a married man your wife has been put under your charge, you must use your life to defend her
If you are not bold enough to do it, then you don’t believe in God
Use your life to defend her
Don’t say because of this, you will not get married
There can be a bad woman, there cannot be a bad wife
Verse 26: sanctify your wife: separate your wife from other women
Don’t say that’s how women are
She is no longer a woman, she is your wife
Sanctify her, cleanse her
How beautiful do you want your wife to become?
You are the one to clean her just as Christ cleansed us
You are supposed to tell your wife how beautiful she is all the time
Cleanse her with the washing of water by the word
See your wife the way God sees the church
Beautify her!
It is not the things(gifts) that she married, it is you
Don’t try to cajole her with these
Let her understand that you are there for her
Build that woman in the wife that you have married
What do you want in a woman?
Build that in your wife
Your wife actually is the one that represents you when you are not there
The kind of man that you are is reflected in your wife
Make your wife glorious
You (a woman) are to be admired
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